Adina Rivers And The Power Of Vulnerability
Adina Rivers is different.
If a coach impacts over 200 million people, they are quick to tell you about it.
Yet, when you ask Adina about herself she says:
“I don’t know… I am such a weirdo.”
And just like that, you get to know Adina. She is open, honest and most importantly, vulnerable.
My partner Sai Blackbyrn and I have been studying coaches for a long time.
We are both obsessed with why some coaches live their dreams, whilst others struggle to get by.
A long time ago, we realized it wasn’t the size of your bank account, the number of certifications on your wall, or even the extent of your connections what made you succeed as a coach.
In fact, in a world where everyone is trying to grab your attention and consumer distrust is on the rise, the only asset left for coaches to stand out is their own degree of authenticity.
Authenticity is the courage to be vulnerable. It is what turns viewers into advocates. It’s what gave Adina a world stage to share her message.
The following is an interview we held with Adina on her authentic rise to international recognition.
Ignacio Perez: What’s Your Story?
Adina Rivers: My story is a wild one. I started to make YouTube videos about sexuality and love to help me along my own journey. It was out of the desperation I felt along the journey, and also my own search on how to feel more in my body.
I started sharing my journey on my blog mytinysecrets.com. Eventually, this blog went viral like crazy. I wasn’t expecting anything. I wasn’t hoping for any success. It just happened more or less overnight.
I amassed like half a million subscribers for my newsletter and thought it would be great to share some videos with them. So I made my first video and because I needed a platform on where to upload the videos, I uploaded it to YouTube.
And then I realized, damn… there are more people watching my videos on YouTube, much more than what could be possible from my newsletter. So I continued with Youtube and that’s how all the journey of becoming a Youtube creator started. It happened super innocently.
There was no plan for me to become successful on either platform. It just happened organically.
Sai Blackbyrn: What were the key milestones along your journey?
Adina Rivers: One milestone was the decision to follow my heart and that subtle voice of my soul which is tremendously important. A lot of people speak about it, but they don’t actually do it.
Milestone number two was to continue my journey despite the setbacks that I had later on that journey and milestone number three was probably understanding that in order to live my life fulfilled and with my heart at peace, I had to be raw, real, authentic and truthful to myself.
Ignacio Perez: What were some of those struggles you speak about?
Adina Rivers: Well, I think today when I look back, all my struggles depended on my internal way of looking at them. I think a struggle is a struggle if I chose to see it as a struggle.
I know that the struggles will never end, I have gone through many and I will go through many in the future.
To give you some examples, we started out with a website for an intimate health product.
We started ranking very high and made lots of money with that page until one night we lost our Google ranking because Google changed its algorithm. At the time it was our single source of income, so we lost everything overnight.
Also, because of the nature of what I speak about (sexuality, sensuality, and love) I have had accounts blocked, been de-monetized on YouTube, payment providers have not accepted me, and many more services have been denied to me. So I have always had to figure out another way of doing things with my partner to make my business happen. And honestly, I’m grateful for the struggle because it gives me so much opportunity to grow.
Ignacio Perez: What would you wish you had known when you started out?
Adina Rivers: Nothing more than what I knew back then. If I had known more, I wouldn’t have experienced tremendous growth and the unexpected miracles that happened along the way.
We always think we need to be smarter, we need to be better but that just leads to a never-ending story of practicing and learning instead of doing.
I remember when we came to Bali with my boyfriend Oliver we were so focused on making a living, and making it work that we didn’t have time to work in our relationship.
Day in and day out we were doing the websites, writing emails, building all sorts of things and neglecting our relationship.
We went through some big ups and downs in our relationship and that helped us grow greatly. If I were to start all over again, I would do the same things but just take more time to communicate with my partner, because all of the success in the world does not matter if you can’t share it with the people you love.
Sai Blackbyrn: What would you say to all the coaches afraid of telling their story and putting themselves out there authentically?
Adina Rivers: I would tell them they are missing out on the greatest successes both internally and externally and also setting themselves up for depression and loneliness.
There are many people who are running financially successful businesses, but if their business is not in alignment with their heart or what is going on with them emotionally, they are setting themselves up for internal struggle and sadness.
Money does not solve your emotional problems, the emotional problems will only get bigger when the money rolls in. Once you are in alignment, you have already succeeded and there is nothing to fear about.
Ignacio Perez: What is the role of vulnerability in growing a business?
Adina Rivers: Vulnerability is success. And I am not talking about financial success. I am talking about success with your heart, success in your personal life.
Living vulnerably means living a life you are proud of and looking back at your journey with a smile.
Being vulnerable was really good for me because it felt good in my heart, it didn’t mean I had to have all the money in the world, but that I was truthful with myself.
I really believe being vulnerable is the new success.
Sai Blackbyrn: What are you working on next?
Adina Rivers: (laughs) I am laughing here because my partner Oliver thinks that I am working on too many things right now. He likes to focus and to laser focus on one thing and I think it is the masculine way of approaching things.
I like to have a variety of projects because it fuels my creativity.
I’m working on a new program for men to step into their full masculine potential and my partner and I are also working on another program that will guide people on how to make money online whilst staying truthful and integral to who they are.
And besides that, I am also working offline on a new vegan restaurant simply because I am passionate about food and I love designing spaces, it makes me feel very artistic.
I’m also working on a new eco-friendly lingerie and comfort-wear brand and will be touring the world for my two other online programs: Sensual Body Transformation and The Pleasure Program
Ignacio Perez: Anything else you would like to say to the thousands of coaches seeing this?
Adina Rivers: Yes just two things. The first one is “Show the world the part of you you least want to show them.” This will be your starting point to what I believe is true success.
The second is “create an online business that supports the evolution of yourself as a three-folded human being.” As a coach you need to take care of your body, mind and soul. Never forget this.
The conversation has been edited and condensed for clarity.
via Forbes - Entrepreneurs http://bit.ly/dTEDZf
February 11, 2019 at 02:25AM